Showing posts with label children. Show all posts
Showing posts with label children. Show all posts

Thursday, May 24, 2018

Telling Stories



By Elizabeth Musser @EMusserAuthor 




When I was a child, parents would warn their kids not to tell stories. By that, of course, they were speaking about lying.  

Thou shalt not lie. 


I was a good little girl, the one who wanted to please, to do things right, so I tried my best not to lie. But oh, how I told stories! Story after story as they galloped through my mind, like the horses doing the same thing in the riding ring behind my house.

I loved telling stories! 


I told them to anyone who would listen to, or, more often, read them. I still have the spiral notebooks of my scribbled stories of yesteryear.

When I was blessed with two little boys, I went back to telling stories, 


nightly stories about Blackie and Angelfoot, the adored ponies, and Slimy Green and Shiny Green, the friendly snakes, and Mr. Snodgrass, the befuddled but kind neighbor. Story after story. And always, somehow, a spiritual anecdote crept into these stories, a little something to turn my sons’ imaginations toward Jesus. During their naptimes, I’d write down the morning’s disaster, turning it also into some sort of anecdotal and redemptive story.

Our ritual of story-telling continued, 


along with reading them books, up into their double-digit days. Yes, they were reading on their own, but amazingly (and delightedly for this little momma) they still loved snuggling with me in bed for a book and a story.

The habit of telling my sons stories and writing them down, along with whatever spiritual tidbit I could grab onto

kept my imagination supple 


until one day, my sons both trotted off to school, and I had the morning to create and craft fiction with the Gospel subtly embedded in the story.

We writers are meant to tell stories, and what better audience to start with than our own kids? 


I am now a grandmother of three, and I once again have the delight of reading books and telling bedtime stories to these precious little people.



Yesterday was Mother’s Day and for this one year, we’re in the States, living right down the street (figuratively, but close literally) from the grandkids. They came with our son and daughter-in-law for a cookout. And late in the evening, well past their bedtime, I snuggled with the three in bed and began my story…

When their daddy poked his head in to say, “Time to go home,” they looked up in dismay until I explained we were in the middle of a story. Then he quickly backed out of the room with, “Okay, just come downstairs when the story’s over.”

I treasure these times for many reasons, but one of the less obvious ones is simply that

making up bedtime stories is keeping my imagination going. And oh, how we writers need that! 


For all of my twenty-five years as a published author, I’ve had another job, too, of missionary, as well as the cherished roles of wife, mother, manager of the manse, etc. So often my other jobs have crowded in to steal away my writing time. Sometimes months go by without me working on a novel, as is the case with these ten months back in the States.

Caring for our aging parents, being involved in family celebrations that we usually miss out on, visiting supporters and supporting churches, speaking about my novels to all different groups of readers, working with our missionaries in our pastoral role and many other things have all but pushed aside my mornings to write.

With my grandkids, I am once again

using my imagination to exercise my creative muscles 


so that they don’t atrophy, so that they’re in good condition when the space opens up for me to sit down and tell another story.



That’s what being a novelist is all about, isn’t it? I promise I'm telling the truth.


How do you keep exercising your writing muscles when life gets in the way of your actual writing?


About Elizabeth Musser 

 ELIZABETH MUSSER usually writes ‘entertainment with a soul’ from her writing chalet—tool shed—outside Lyon, France. For over twenty-five years, Elizabeth and her husband, Paul, have been involved in missions’ work in Europe. To be closer to family, the Mussers have moved back to the Southeast for 2017-2018 school year and are living in the Chattanooga area near their son, daughter-in-law and three grandkids. Find more about Elizabeth’s novels at www.elizabethmusser.com and on Facebook, Twitter, and her blog.


 

Monday, March 28, 2016

Another Twenty-Six Years

A couple of weeks back, my wife and I celebrated our 26th wedding anniversary. We have always both been pretty casual about the whole anniversary thing. Our shared view is that, if we have to place too much emphasis on the milestones, then perhaps we’re not enjoying the journey as much as we should. Also, raising our children was so demanding we did not really have the presence of mind to remember much beyond surviving each day. It was only when our kids starting preparing to leave the nest that we found ourselves remembering our anniversary.

“Say, didn't we get married in March?” my wife asked.
“Yes we did. It was the 10th or 12th, I think,” I replied.
“How long has it been?”
“Twenty-two years. No wait, twenty-three. Wow.”

That was three years ago. Last year I bought a fancy silver picture frame with “25th Anniversary” engraved along the bottom and two oval holes for photographs. The plan was for me to find a photo from when we first got married and another more recent picture.

That never happened and the frame stood empty all year. This year, however, I made the effort and found two suitable candidates. The first was taken on our wedding day (we looked vaguely terrified). The other was from our first trip to England without the kids (we look relieved). So we now have a beautiful silver frame showing where we started and how far we have come. Through a trick of perspective, my wife’s wedding gown appears to run diagonally across the other, more recent, picture. It looks almost like a path, as if God is showing us that he knew our steps long before we did and that those steps would lead us...here.

What struck me while searching through the albums and computer folders, was just how much we have been though since tying the knot a quarter of a century ago. I got to revisit my children’s lives, from them clinging to us while we helped them take their first wide-eyed steps, to them gazing into the distance with that longing in their eyes that meant they would soon be gone. Our aim was always to raise them to love Jesus and build their lives on God’s unshakable foundation. They have both had their struggles with faith, but my daughter talks about God as if he is a part of the family and last night my son had to end our Skype session early to attend the church youth group he leads. This gives me hope for their futures.

Somewhere in those photographs was a snapshot of my very first novel and I remembered so clearly why it was I started writing. I wanted to create stories that Christians could enjoy and that perhaps atheists could read as well. What I never expected was for it to take so long for that dream to come to fruition. In fact, the journey of my writing coincides almost exactly with that of my children. Last year both my son and daughter moved out to start lives of their own. Earlier this year I discovered something about my first novel that made the years of effort worthwhile.

While searching for my book “Alpha Redemption” on Google, I found it listed on a site of top 25 A.I. novels, surrounded by secular books from the likes of Asimov, Banks and Clarke. The reviewer said that he never thought that he would one day write a positive review for a Christian novel, but that that day had come. Looking at my little book sitting on that list of secular titles among the giants of science fiction, I realized that I could happily stop writing because this is exactly what I set out to do all those years ago.

But, like any journey, it doesn't finish till you get to the end. My children’s lives have just begun and the path leading from my wife’s dress does not stop but appears to pass out of the frame and on into the unknown. And I have too many stories inside my head to stop writing now. I hope that this is just the beginning and that, twenty five years down the line, I will be looking for more photographs to put inside a frame and marveling at how much we have lived during that time.  

Wednesday, November 25, 2015

Caleb and the Cotton Candy Calamity – A Thanks-Not-Giving Story


Children do some things fabulously well. Joy is one of them. They spin around, sing, shout, giggle, and run with wild abandon. You know why? They don’t carry their burdens. They know they depend on everyone for everything all the time. Dependency is their way of life. Bravo, kids. I want to be more like you. 

But they are fabulously terrible at other things. 

Once upon a time, a first-grader named Caleb got to go to Disneyland. His parents saved for months. They drove for days. They walked for hours, from ride to ride, show to show, souvenir shop to souvenir shop. His parents bypassed the coolest rides, shows, and restaurants because Caleb was too young for them and this trip was for him. 

Then somewhere between standing in line to get Phineas and Ferb autographs and a character meal, young Caleb decided he wanted cotton candy. If they were to stop for cotton candy (there was a long line for that too) they would be late for the character meal, so they didn’t get the cotton candy. 

Caleb was cross. He complained about the walk, about the heat, about the bags, and about the crowds. When Lilo & Stitch came his way at the restaurant, he turned away, fighting back tears. 

Dad talked to Caleb about how hard they’d worked to make that trip a success and about all the fun things they’d done already. He told Caleb he was yet to hear a “thank you.” 

Caleb lowered his head, let the tears fall, and said, “thank you.” 


No, I don’t have a boy named Caleb. I made him up after hearing my pastor talk about a similar situation during one of their family trips to Disney. But we all know a Caleb—we’re probably raising one. 

Surely we’re quick to spot thanklessness in our children, like David was quick to spot the error of the rich man in Nathan’s parable of the ewe lamb. But how about us? Are we like Caleb toward God? Do we cry and whine about cotton candy when He’s taken us to Disneyland? 

I know I am. Getting published is my cotton candy. I have all the things I really need and plenty of extras, but that cotton candy (so fluffy, so sweet, and so pink!) allures daily. Like Caleb, sometimes I’m so busy wanting cotton candy that I forget to thank my Heavenly Father for all He’s given me already. 

Good thing God loves us even when we act like rotten kids. Good thing He forgives us as often as we confess, and delivers us every time we cry unto Him. But I don’t want to treat God like my kids treat me half the time. Good grief. I don’t want to be like children when it comes to thanks-not-giving. 

Psalm 107:8 (and 15, and 21, and 31) – “Oh that men would praise the LORD for his goodness, and for his wonderful works to the children of men!” 

I’m so sorry for taking my many blessings for granted sometimes, Lord. Thank you for Disneyland, for the rides, for the souvenirs, and for all the wonderful adventures—no cotton candy required. 

What’s your cotton candy?

Patricia Beal is a Christian author, Army wife, and ballerina. She writes contemporary fiction and is represented by Leslie Stobbe of the Leslie H. Stobbe Literary Agency. She’s a 2015 Genesis semi-finalist and First Impressions finalist. 

Patricia is from Brazil and immigrated to America in 1992. She graduated magna cum laude from the University of Cincinnati in 1998 with a B.A. in English Literature. After an internship at the Pentagon, she worked as a public affairs officer for the U.S. Army for seven years. 

She and her husband live in El Paso, Texas, with their two children. 

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Monday, October 26, 2015

Seeing His Face in the Room


We're at the stage of family life where we find ourselves in mini-awards assemblies a few times a year. There's not much to do as you wait through hundreds of small people having their moment in the spotlight. With three daughters, I've done my fair share of these gatherings, yet I don't think I'll ever grow tired of them. You see I love watching the faces of the award winners as they line up on stage after shaking hands and getting their loot. You can see them frown as they search the crowd for their loved one, certificate in their hands all but forgotten.

Then my favourite moment - they find the one they've been looking for. They light up. You can read it all over their faces... Dad promised to be here and here he is. He's taken time off work to be here for me. He's proud of me, he loves me, he believes in me.

We can say these things to our kids over and over, but sometimes they need to see our face in the room.

Writing about God and His love is much like this. He promised in the Bible that He will never leave us or forsake us. Our readers may have heard this over and over without it ever really hitting home. But as their eyes scan our words, they will find the One they've been looking for, whether they knew they were looking for Him or not! As they do their faces will light up. They will be transformed by His love for them.

Our words can be His face in the room.

Dianne J. Wilson writes novels from her hometown in East London, South Africa, where she lives with her husband and three daughters.

Finding Mia is available from Amazon, Pelican / Harbourlight, Barnes & Noble and other bookstores.

Shackles is available as a free ebook from Smashwords.

Find her on Facebook, Twitter and her sporadic blog Doodles.

Friday, December 13, 2013

DEVOTION: An Unusual Christmas Message ~ by Shirley Corder

Live in harmony and peace. And may the God of love and peace be with you. 2 Corinthians 13:11 TLB

The children in my Sunday School had rehearsed their parts in the Christmas production for months. All went well, until the grand finale. Mary and Joseph came on stage with Baby Jesus. Angels followed, then the shepherds. Next came the wise men. The cutest came last.

A murmur of delight greeted the twelve two- and three-year-old cherubs who walked on-stage holding hands and dressed in long white robes and silver halos. They obediently formed a semi-circle in front of the Baby Jesus then sat down cross-legged . . . with one exception.

Brad’s freckled face broke into an excited grin as he spotted Granny. He pulled his hand free and waved. People chuckled. Embarrassed, the little boy pulled on his robe, revealing a pair of chubby legs and blue boxer shorts.

Three-year-old Laura decided to get things back on track. She grabbed Brad's shorts and tugged. The congregation roared. Brad grabbed his shorts, then saw Laura. He may only be two-years-old, but no girl would get the better of him. He took a swing. Laura obviously had older brothers. She scrambled to her feet and shoved him. Brad came back, both fists flailing. I jumped forward and swept Brad off stage. Another teacher grabbed Laura. The congregation was hysterical.

We completed the play, but the spectacular ending didn’t happen. Some of the children had the giggles. Ripples of laughter kept sweeping across the hall. The two littlest angels sat and glared at each other.

After the curtain closed, the pastor thanked the Sunday school for their "most unusual presentation" of the Christmas story. When the laughter eased off, he added. “In the book of Revelation we read ‘There was war in Heaven’ and some of the angels were cast down to earth." (Revelation 12:7-9)

At the time, the production seemed to be a disaster. But had we put on a perfect presentation, it would have been forgotten in the haze of children's Christmas plays through the years. To this day, folk still break out in laughter when someone mentions that Christmas pageant of so long ago. And they will never forget the Scripture, "There was war in Heaven"! Not the Scripture we planned to leave in their memories, but maybe it's one God wanted them to remember.

Over to you: What memories do you plan to make this Christmas? Are they traditional memories? Or is there something different you can do that your loved ones will remember for years to come?

P.S. - Following some of the comments, I'm interested to know how many countries still celebrate Christ's nativity with children's pageants or Christmas plays. Please share with us below if your country still does this.

SHIRLEY CORDER lives on the coast in South Africa with her husband. Her book, Strength Renewed: Meditations for your Journey through Breast Cancer contains 90 meditations based on some of the ways God's Positioning System directed her through the rough times in the cancer valley. It is available globally in print or online in e-versions. 

Please visit Shirley through ShirleyCorder.com, where she encourages writers, or at RiseAndSoar.com, where she encourages those in the cancer valley. You can also meet with her on Twitter or FaceBook. Sign up for her newsletter.

Thursday, October 17, 2013

Things I want my children to know

The more time passes and the more, by His grace, I learn about the Lord, the more I wish I had learned some things earlier in life. This made me begin a list of things I want my children to know. Do you have a list of things you wish you'd known sooner? Anyway here's some of the items on my list. They form part of one of my book projects.

Life is full of choices. Big and small. Every decision, no matter how much or little thought you put into it, is a choice.

Choice is a powerful gift. All choices have consequence. Consequences may be natural and/or spiritual; may be obvious or not. And we have no control or idea of the timing of said consequence.

The truth is the truth no matter what you believe or feel. The difference between truths and facts is that no matter the circumstances truth doesn't change; facts on the other hand are subject to change.

What you think and say about yourself is extremely important.

God is in control. There's very little we can control, but what we can control is extremely significant: our choices, our reactions and our words.

Knowing in your head is just a little part. It's your heart knowledge that defines you. There's no one order to knowing, but if you know in your head, act on what you know until to gets to your heart.

You don't have to say everything. Somethings are better left unsaid.

Your talents don't indicate your greatness. Without God you have nothing.

Everybody, no matter what you think or feel about them, is valuable to God.

Don't try to live up to man's expectations, focus on God's expectation.

Don't look down on anyone. You're no better than them.

Don't fake it. Be real.

Be you. Don't be afraid of people.

Honour your parents. Respect people, but only God should control your life.

Love can make people better. If you love people they can become better.

As a Christian, when you fight others (through gossip, ill treatment, criticism, malice, etc) you are aiding the very enemy you claim to hate.

Check your motive before your actions. God looks at the heart.

Every deed, even wrong ones can be justified. So let the Word of God be the standard for your life and not your emotions or human reasonings.
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Ufuoma Daniella Ojo is a Senior Technical Author and Software Trainer. She lives in London. She is working on some new stories about relationships and is trusting God for connections leading to publication.

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

BREAKING THROUGH THE WALLS - TO WRITE

Today Ray and I went with our adult children here for Christmas holidays from the Australian mainland to see the movie, Tin-Tin. It was a most enjoyable family film. Our children began reading Tin-Tin when they were quite young and have a number of those comics still on their shelves. In a couple of scenes the comment was made, “when you come to a wall, you’ve got to break through it!”

For this writer, those words accompanied me home in the car. Having this blog to write made the statement even more relevant. Why? Because over the last couple of weeks a number of invisible yet very real walls have appeared across my pathway to writing my next book! Breaking through them has required more than one type of “hammer.”

There has been the Wall of Sickness and now whooping cough which has infected our grand-children. We have six youngsters under ten years. The youngest is 10 weeks. By the grace of God and wise management by parents she has so far escaped its ravages. Prayer is sustaining the family as sleep has been in short supply. Christmas Day this year was certainly “different.” We did join them all in the open air for far too brief a time to give and receive gifts but no hugs, no kisses! I am a “hugger” so that was particularly difficult!

Over the years, the Wall of Distraction has often come to taunt me day in and day out. Before long my writing schedule is derailed and I become frustrated, even despondent. Fortunately I have a wonderful husband who prods me along. So many times he not only helps with tasks that should be my responsibility, but picks up the “axe” of priorities and helps me break through. I have to remember to let some things in the house and garden remain untidy, to delegate some responsibilities and try harder to ignore others. Having dealt with those levels of self-discipline, I still have to put seat on this chair, read back over some of what I’ve already written until I’ve crept back into the heads and hearts of the characters in my latest story.

At last! Fingers poise for a moment over the keyboard. A deep breathe, and off they go trying to keep up with those characters’ fears and problems, tears and triumphs. I am writing again at last!

None of this is easy. My having a perfectionist nature makes that very evident and something about myself I’ve had to come to grips with many times over the years. God sure knew how much I needed the help of a sympathetic “close enough is wonderful” husband to get me back on track to crash through that “Wall”.

Unfortunately, as in that Tin Tin story today, there are too many times series of Walls to break through when actually working on a manuscript.

Sometimes plots and characters just won’t “behave” as I thought they would or should in certain situations. This is the Wall of Disappointment when things don’t work out in the story. The encouragement of fellow writers through face to face contact at meetings, conferences, reading other writer’s blogs, tips on many aspects of writing help tear the walls down plank by plank or even brick by brick.

The Wall of Aging becomes an excuse as I find it takes more and more time to assemble fresh and stimulating words and plots. I can’t do much about the years but accepting a slower work rate allows for escape holes to appear in the barrier between me and my final edit.

There are all kinds of Walls of course that can slow or even stall the writing process. But my final one I’d like to mention here is the Wall of Criticism, especially from family and close friends. This is a hurtful barrier which I can only really conquer with the sense of conviction I’m doing what is pleasing to the Lord. I may not be a “World Winner”, but God will use what I’ve framed and had accepted by editors and publishers to be a blessing to someone somewhere.

Essentially, this is the best “Wall Breaker” I know. Nothing you do for the Lord, with the Lord and according to the Lord’s purposes will ever be contained by the “Walls” of the world, the Flesh or the Darkness. In fact, when all is said and done it has only been because HE is the one who has been my strength to break through the walls that would stop me writing – and being – what HE wants me to do and be.


What about your world – whether it is also that of the writer or some other tasks?
What kind of Walls do you discover may block the road you know you should be faithfully travelling on?



Ray and Mary with 2011
CALEB Award certificates.
 Mary Hawkins is a best-selling inspirational romance author. A Queensland farmer’s daughter, she became a registered nurse before going to Bible College. She and her minister husband have three adult children and five grandchildren, enjoyed over 46 years of ministry including church planting in Australia, two years in England, three short term mission trips to Africa and now live in Tasmania, Australia's island state. Her 19th title, Justice at Baragula was released May, 2011
Read more about her books, her husband Ray and his devotional books on their blog from the website: http://www.mary-hawkins.com/

Thursday, July 28, 2011

Writing for a Higher Purpose


It is said that you'll know that you are a writer if you cannot not write. There is a passion, an invisible hand that forces you to put your words on paper (or screen).

This is true in my case, besides the fact that I enjoy writing. But as the years pass and I've been more involved in ministry and international missions, I've realized there is more to my calling as an author than spending my life dreaming characters and plots.

I want to write not just to be a communicator of truth or provide clean entertaining. Certainly not for money and fame. I want to make an actual difference in the life of people. A difference like feeding the hungry, healing the sick, bringing hope to the hopeless. The gospel of Jesus in action.

That's why I'm so excited about the new partnership between my publisher and an organization that serves orphaned children. Below is an excerpt from the announcement:

Risen Books has partnered with Holt International, a Christian organization that finds and supports permanent, loving families for children who are orphaned, abandoned or separated from families, or at serious risk of separation. Holt is a world leader in international adoption and child welfare programs that enable children to have families of their own.

For every book sold through Risen’s online store, the publisher will donate a portion of the proceeds to Holt International to aid children in need.

“We at Holt are so pleased by our new partnership with Risen Books,” says Kim Brown, CEO and president of Holt International Children’s Services. “We truly applaud their commitment to help us serve orphaned, abandoned and vulnerable children around the world.”

The founders of Risen Books have been sponsoring children through Holt since 2006. “Holt shows God’s love for humanity by caring for these precious children,” says DP Martinez, senior editor at Risen Books. “We want to raise awareness of their labor and invite our readers to get involved, not only by buying books but by sponsoring children.”

Learn more about Holt International Children Services and how to give at HoltInternational.org.

I have decided to join this cause by amending my contract with Risen Books so that I won't receive any royalties for the sale of my new book, The Jihad's Messiah, but for that money to go to Holt International instead.

I've found a higher purpose for my writing, thanks to the work of Christ on the cross. He died for me so I may have eternal life and communion with God. Now I want to follow his example and live my life for the benefit of others. I invite you to do the same.

Nick Daniels' newest novel, The Jihad's Messiah will be released in September 2011, but you can pre-order it (and help orphaned children in the process) at www.risenfiction.com/store.