Showing posts with label international. Show all posts
Showing posts with label international. Show all posts

Wednesday, October 25, 2017

Mawage, er, Marriage Proposal Traditions

International Proposal Traditions 

By "international" I mean "outside of the United States". ;)

Ever wondered what other traditions there are out there for marriage proposals? Just how do they do it in a place such as...

Ireland.
They have one such tradition as women proposing to men.
By Source, Fair use, https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?curid=25087659
 But only once every four years. Time and Date (of all places to read about proposals!) say this:

"According to an old Irish legend, or possibly history, St Brigid struck a deal with St Patrick to allow women to propose to men – and not just the other way around – every four years.
This is believed to have been introduced to balance the traditional roles of men and women in a similar way to how leap day balances the calendar."

This romantic comedy movie is super fun. I highly recommend it.


Australian Aboriginals
Traditionally promised to marriage at age five. Nowadays, Aboriginal people are quite contemporary, especially those who live in country towns or cities.

http://www.cairnsunlimited.com/aboriginalculture.htm

 The Netherlands
Clogs as a marriage proposal, what could possibly be more Dutch than THAT!

Image from creative commons.

One story says that young men once carved clogs to leave on the doorsteps of their chosen ladies, and if she wore them the next day it would signal an acceptance of the marriage proposal. Aww. In contemporary Dutch wedding traditions, some couples may wear clogs for the wedding day and later display them on the walls of their home with dried flowers.

Apparently we also have the Dutch to thank for bridal showers, wishing trees, and lilies of the valley. Ah. Where would today's brides be without those traditions? :)

 Italy
Giving one's true love a lumpy iron band. Cos, you know, nothing says "I love you" more than THAT!

Iron Roman wedding band. Photographed at British Museum, London.

 But Italians being the clever people they are figured out that iron rusts and decided to make them out of gold instead. And then add diamonds. And clasped hands (fede ala Claddagh) style rings thus bringing the tradition full circle from "I own you" to "I promise to marry you/trust you" to "I love you".

There are more traditions over at THIS blog. In the meantime, here's the mawage clip from the Princess Bride.



Your turn! What marriage proposal traditions have YOU heard of that is unusual?

God bless!

Lucy Thompson is a stay-at-home mum to five precocious children and wife to the ultra-handy Dave by day, and a snoop by night, stalking interesting characters through historical settings, and writing about their exploits. Catch her on facebook. She'd love to make a new friend. :)


Tuesday, March 5, 2013

Interview with Elsie O. Oghenekaro



It's an honour to bring an interview with Nigerian children's book author, Elsie Oghenekaro. Elsie has written numerous short stories, children's books and biographies. She is also a travel agent, a mother of 5 young children and active in her local church.




When did you first realise that you wanted to be a writer?
I have always had the desire to write. I wrote my first story when I was eleven years old, although I didn’t do anything with it. I just loved reading and writing. When I was nine years old, I had to leave my parents and go live with an older sister and her family to help out with her kids. Her husband was quite abusive to me, but he had a large library of books and these became my succor. I read everything available and signed up as a member of the local public library. I had few friends because of the restrictive environment at home, so I started “talking” to my books. I would write down my thoughts, hopes, dreams and would imagine myself living in happier times and surroundings. I would create characters in my head and whenever things got out of hand at home, I would retreat into the happier world in my head.

I kept diaries all through my high school years and continued reading. I read romance, thrillers, mysteries, biographies, sci-fi; anything and everything. I even read mystical books about Eastern religions and such stuff.
It was no surprise when my first real job was as a newspaper reporter. I loved digging for news but my real love was writing features for my newspaper. Much as I loved the job though, the pay was very poor and the newsroom politics was even worse. I left journalism and joined the International Committee of the Red Cross as a Field officer. My job included media and government liaison, administration, operation and everything in between. After seven years, I resigned to start my own travel business and look after my young family.

Eventually I found my way back to writing almost fulltime. The plan was not to write for children, but I found myself doing so and loving it. My kids love a good story and we have days of the week when we would sit down and just tell stories; many of these stories form the basis of my children’s books.

You’ve written about 7 books, most for children. Why? And what do u find being the challenges for writing for one demographic over the other?
It has been an awesome journey writing for kids. I have five children ranging from seven to eighteen years and they are usually my first readers. The Bible is full of stories that hold a lot of appeal for young people and I constantly try to write Bible stories that appeal to children and at the same time teach applicable life lessons.

I have written several children’s books in the past four years and have a lot more I am working on. I am looking forward to releasing four children’s books this year. I have three unpublished novels, a book of random articles, and three uncompleted Bible- based novels. I have other works which do not necessarily fall into any classification and I am working on my third Biography, which is the story of my late Pastor, Ina Omakwu, of Family Worship Centre, Abuja in Nigeria.

Writing for me, is a calling as well as a profession. I love to write, it gives me pleasure and one genre is not necessarily easier than another or more difficult. Writing for kids though, is more fun because my kids critique as I write and children don’t hide their opinions. Kids are also more appreciative, I love to see the joy in their faces when they pick a good well written and illustrated book. I find novels more relaxing because it’s like travelling to fun places and living the lives of my characters. I also enjoy the whole process of creating them and making them do my bidding! A biography sometimes pays the bills and gives me a peep into people’s lives that I find intriguing. Whenever I write, I learn something new and that is my biggest satisfaction.

Describe the route to publication in Nigeria. What have been some if your biggest challenges?
The major challenge with writing and publishing in my country is the scarcity of traditional publishers willing to take a chance on an “unknown” author. The number of book buyers is not very encouraging and publishers are not willing to spend their money on struggling authors. This leaves the option of self-publishing which is both expensive and cumbersome. You have to source for a good printer, pay the costs and do the marketing yourself. This can have a dampening effect on the joys of writing. It also adds to the frustration, because you end up spending a lot of money and not getting the financial rewards you feel entitled to. I write primarily because I want to, otherwise, I would not be able to cope.

You have 5 children, a couple of businesses and a home to maintain. How does this affect your writing? What's a typical day like?
My typical day starts at 4am with my morning devotion, then I get the kids ready for school (I have 3 of them at home, ages 13, 11 and 7. My first son is away at University, and my 15year old daughter is in the boarding school). Then I take a bath, and write for about four hours. I would also check my emails, respond or write, browse for industry news or do some form of online research or the other. Then I face household chores which could include laundry, shopping or cooking and cleaning. With a houseful of kids, there is always something waiting for your attention! Three evenings a week I’m at church for fellowship or meetings and weekends are taken up with church and family events.

My non-typical but very frequent day sees me running out of the house at 6:30am to catch a bus into the city centre where I go for meetings with clients, interviews for biographies or such projects, dealing with printers, bookstores and or attending to any of the things I do to stay afloat financially while waiting for my writing to pay off. Such days, I do as much as I can for the kids and my husband fills in the gap. I usually get back exhausted with just enough energy left for quick hugs and half an ear for each kid to fill me in on their day before I fall into bed.

Christian themes run through some of your books. How important is that to you?
My parents were Christians and they led me to believe that the Christian life was the best option for me. I gave my life to Christ 19 years ago and since then my biggest desire has been to serve God with all of me. Naturally, I recognize my love for writing for what it is; a gift, and I have given this gift back to the Lord to use as it pleases Him. I do not write anything the Holy Spirit does not approve of; I am not ashamed of what I am and do not see a separation between my craft and my faith.

Describe your latest book "Tales my Mama told me".

My latest book, “Tales my Mama told me”, is a collection of folktales. Folktales used to be a big form of entertainment in Africa before the television took over and I find that children still enjoy a good story. The book tells four different stories from long ago that teach social and moral values. These are some of the values on which the original African society was based; some of these values are being lost gradually and I want to do my bit to help us hold on to them.

What's next for Elsie Oghenekaro?
I believe that I am just starting out as a writer. As the kids grow and leave home, I will concentrate more on my craft. I am currently trusting God to do an Ecclesiastical history of Nigeria. I am also working on a geographical and historical book about my country. I have several uncompleted works. I have been working with children and adults who feel the urge to write but lack the confidence to do so. I encourage people to write and get their works published. I am also adding consulting and motivational speaking to my To-do list, and if the LORD tarries, I will do much more as He leads me!


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Ufuoma Daniella Ojo is a Senior Technical Author and Software Trainer. She lives in London. She is working on some new stories about relationships and is trusting God for connections leading to publication.




Tuesday, February 5, 2013

The Book Depository (dot com)

EReaders are growing in popularity around the world. The big question might be, is this because people prefer to read on them, or because they live out of Amazon.com's delivery area? I'm sure the answer is: some of both.

If you live outside of the USA and prefer to read paper books in the English language, I'd like to introduce you to The Book Depository, a company in the United Kingdom with over 8,000,000 titles available. The best part? Even one book qualifies for free shipping to over 100 countries.

How does The Book Depository work?

1. They deal in physical books only, leaving ebooks to other retailers.

2. Founded in 2004, their motto is to make "All Books available to All."

3. They are Europe's fastest growing bookseller with over 1,000,000 customers and an impeccable reputation.

4. They provide an affiliate program.

I emailed Andy at TBD and asked him how big their warehouse is!

Andy: We don’t physically hold that many books but we have a fantastic supplier network with fast delivery times from them to our warehouse, so we can get books from many different suppliers into our warehouse and then out to the customer very quickly.

I also asked him if they carried selfpublished books.

Andy: We work via distributors and wholesalers so provided the book is held in stock by one of our existing supply partners then we can list and sell those books on our website. We do list POD titles produced by Ingram POD and Lightning Source International.

That clarified a couple of points!

A fellow ICFW member, Grace Bridges, who hails from New Zealand, first told me of this site. I began to use it when Rainbow's End released in May, 2012. Many bloggers and reviewers have come to expect book giveaways, and I know I enjoy them, too. But living in Canada, I don't have access to the same cheap media rates experienced by authors in the USA, mailing books to American addresses.

I have two choices. I can take a book from my stash (one I've paid for, albeit at a discount, or from the limited number provided by my publisher) and pay the postage, or I can buy a book at retail from TBD and NOT pay postage. (Bonus? When Rainbow's End released, TBD had it listed for $6.39 CDN instead of the $8.39 on amazon.ca!)The cost to me, then, is roughly the same, except that going through TBD means I still have that book copy in my stash, available for someone local where postage isn't necessary at all. No longer do I need to limit giveaways to the USA and/or Canada. The cost is the same no matter where.

Win/win? I say "yes!"

Just for fun, let's give it a test drive. If you live in any one of the 100 countries TBD ships to free of charge, comment for a chance to win a copy of Rainbow's End. Share a frustration or story about book shipment, or just toss your email address in the hat before Tuesday, February 12, replacing @ with (at) and .com with (dot) com.

"Void where prohibited; the odds of winning depend on the number of entrants. Entering the giveaway is considered a confirmation of eligibility on behalf of the enterer in accord with these rules and any pertaining local/federal/international laws."

About Rainbow's End: Join a geocaching adventure in the spectacular Lake of the Ozarks wilderness, with Lyssa, the reluctant volunteer whose former nemesis is now her chief sponsor; Madison, a city girl paired with an outdoorsy guy who gets on her very last nerve; Hadley, who doesn’t know enough about guys to realize she’s met a womanizer; and cautious Reagan, who meets an equally cautious guy. Will they find the treasure they’re looking for … or something else entirely?

Valerie Comer's life on a small farm in western Canada provides the seed for stories of contemporary inspirational romance. Like many of her characters, Valerie and her family grow much of their own food and are active in the movement as well as their creation-care-centric church. She only hopes her creations enjoy their happily ever afters as much as she does hers, shared with her husband, adult kids, and adorable granddaughters.

Her first published work, a novella, was released in the collection Rainbow's End from Barbour Books in May 2012. Visit her to glimpse inside her world.

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Celebrating an International Christmas

My hubby and I just returned from a wonderfully relaxing two-week vacation in Hawaii. What an awesome place at any time of year, but particularly during the holidays! Let me tell you about the highlight of our entire trip.

Since we knew we’d be there during Christmas, one of the first things I did after arriving in the islands was to locate a church close to where we were staying, one that was planning a Christmas Eve service. (I know not all churches do that anymore, but I absolutely adore Christmas Eve services, don’t you? Especially the dangerous ones with little children waving lit candles in the otherwise darkened sanctuary!) I found one just a couple of miles from our condo and nailed down the particulars on the service, looking forward to it with more anticipation than I did Santa’s visits when I was a child. Sure enough, I wasn’t disappointed!

That evening we drove up to the lovely little chapel just a few minutes before the scheduled service was about to begin. Surprisingly, there were few cars in the parking lot, so we had no problem finding good seats. But as the time for the service to start came and went and people continued to pour in, I remembered we were on “Hawaii time.” Unlike many of us mainlanders (particularly yours truly, who is never late for anything!), Hawaiians get there…well, when they get there.

As a result, though the service started about fifteen minutes late, it was with a packed house—and a congregation that reflected so many ethnic and cultural variations! We soon learned that although the Baptists celebrated/worshiped in the building on Sunday mornings, a Hawaiian-dialect congregation used the facilities to gather together on Sunday afternoons. Then a Samoan congregation met there every Sunday evening. All three congregations came together on Christmas Eve to worship the same Lord and Savior, and to commemorate His birth. And, of course, several of us tourists were there to join them as well.

What an experience! We heard the Christmas story read from Luke 2 in English, Hawaiian, and Samoan. We also had the joy of hearing three choirs sing in their respective native language, and though we didn’t truly understand all the words, we felt as if we did.

Throughout that touching and unique Christmas Eve service, I thought, This is how it will be in heaven! All countries, peoples, cultures will be gathered together into one body, singing and worshiping and praising the One who died for all. And I wept with joy.

Did I garner new writing material from my trip to the islands? Of course I did. We writers can find topics for our books/articles/stories just about anywhere. But this event is one that will stand out in my memory for a long time to come. It was a bit of an international Christmas, just a taste of the joy we will experience when we are all united (and reunited) in heaven for all eternity. I look forward to seeing you there!