Showing posts with label fear. Show all posts
Showing posts with label fear. Show all posts

Wednesday, November 15, 2017

What Are You Afraid of?

Hello Sandra Orchard here.

These days I’m spending time with my young grandson as he recovers from leg surgery. The first couple of weeks, he stoically endured the painful steps he had to take to begin the process of putting weight back on his leg, but by week three, he’d start to panic at the mere mention that we’d be doing it soon.

The fear of the pending pain became more debilitating than the pain itself.



As I started praying against that, I realized such fear hinders us from doing a lot of things.

Have you ever thought about how many times fear is at the root of procrastination?

Think about it. We know we have to get something done and it should only take a finite amount of time to do and once it’s done we’ll likely be hugely relieved it can be scratched off the to-do list. So why put off doing it?

Why play that game of FreeCell instead? Or check those emails? Or Facebook?

Yes, I’ve come to the conclusion fear is what keeps me from sitting down at the computer and writing the next chapter, especially when I know something in the story isn’t working, and, as much as I’ve been praying for guidance and inspiration, I’m not feeling it.

So I decided to think about what exactly I might be afraid of and came up with a few ideas:

-       I’ll waste hours writing scenes I ultimately won’t be able to
-       I’ll spend hours at the keyboard and make too little progress to show for it
-       What I write will be boring, uninspiring and useless

All three have happened time and again, so the fear is totally justified. But . . .

I also realized that unless I’m going to procrastinate by doing something else practical that needs doing, the reality is writing something gets me a whole lot closer to figuring out how to make the story shine than a game of Free Cell.

So I’ve made myself a two-part reminder note for whenever I’m dogging it:

You won’t finish the story unless you write it.
And…
Every little effort makes the story stronger.

It’s true, too. Just as my grandson’s micro-inch steps make his leg stronger, so do my feeble writing attempts. When I write scenes that don’t work, they help steer me toward what will, and they usually help me to understand my characters better or to see what I haven’t figured out about them yet.

That said, I’ve also learned that it’s a good idea to quit for the day while the ideas are still flowing. I jot a few notes to remind me how to carry on the next time I sit down and then I’m far more eager to get back to it the next day, than if I’d written until my ideas ran dry.

Gotta run now. I have a story to write!


Your Turn: Have you experienced victory over a fear? Did your fear turn out to be worse than what you’d been fearing?


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Wednesday, July 26, 2017

Fear

"The Lord, Himself will fight for you. Just stay calm." (Exodus 14:14)

It's funny how fear can creep in at the most unexpected time.  
I'm not talking about a fear of spiders, mice or velour pants. I'm talking about disturbances that throw off your balance.

I have a fear of confrontation. 
Isn't that silly?
A woman over the age of (ahem) 40ish, afraid of heated conversations. And fights. And disappointments. One who would rather NOT tell a good friend that they have been hurt, and instead, pretend it never happened.

Sometimes the confrontations are childish, like, not liking what someone said about you. Or maybe it's even more silly, like when you really don't want to talk to the phone company about cancelling their services. 
But sometimes they feel so much more monstrous. Like when someone takes you to court and they want you to acquiese. Or your character is being defamed, and your friends are believing it.
What then?

I love how GOD's Word always pops up at the most perfect time. Always.  
I love how His Word is filled with examples of awful confrontations, including being hunted as a dog, so that you can be assured that He is there. No matter what.

Moses was chased by his enemies, while he was supposed to lead people to safety. Can you even imagine the stress? But GOD was there, wasn't He? Fed them, watered them, parted the Red Sea.
Noah had to build an ark amongst scourners and friends turning against him. And then he had to watch them all die. I'm sure he felt something, then.  GOD was there, too.  We have the glorious rainbow to remind us.
David was one of GOD's chosen and yet his friend, hunted him to kill him.  David had to hide in mountains, sleeping on rocks, but not sleeping because what if he didn't hear someone come in?  GOD was there.
Poor Mary had to deal with wondering whether or not Joseph would believe her, when she said that GOD chose her pregnancy and it wasn't another man.  I'm sure she didn't sleep well, either.  Imagine the worry, but also the joy of knowing you were chosen.

"Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD, and whose hope is in the LORD." (Jer 17:7)

It is so easy to forget that we have the greatest Warrior on our side.  That He will take care of us. Sometimes it's easier saying the words, then believing them. But they're true.

So. Be brave, friend.  
"GOD'S got your back."


Jenn Kelly is a writer. Sometimes.

Thursday, June 1, 2017

Facing Fears

by Carolyn Miller

I like to think I’m braver than I am, that I’d be the person who saves a life by standing up to someone, or puts my life in danger in some dramatic rescue. Truth is, I’m not terribly brave. I prefer my cave to lots of people, I shriek when I see mice and snakes – and don’t get me started on rats! (Funny thing though, this little Aussie is perfectly okay with spiders)

The past few months have provided lots of opportunities for me to face my fears as I embark on published author life. From having to ask complete strangers for help in promoting my work, to asking authors I look up (but have never met) to read and then provide endorsement (hello, Angela! 😊), to being presented with opportunities to speak at conferences with far more knowledgeable people than I, sometimes it seems like I’m forced to face my fears every day.

Aren’t we all?

I think sometimes we believe that God is supposed to protect us from trouble, that the Christian life should be stress-free. I know people who have walked away from faith because they couldn’t understand why a good God would allow such hardship in their life. But God doesn’t promise stress-free. The Bible says many times that trouble comes but God is with us. That though we walk through the valley of the shadow of death we need not fear, because God is with us (Psalm 23.4). That God is our refuge and strength, our ever-present help in times of trouble (Psalm 46.1). These verses are easy to agree when life is cruisy, but how much harder when things seem overwhelming. (Can I hear an Amen?)

There have been times this past year when I’ve been literally trembling as I face my fears, even if it’s only about sending (or reading) a particular email. I remember saying to my mother-in-law how the challenges felt a bit like labouring in childbirth, where each band of pressure and contraction was leading to enlarged capacity, and the promise of new things. I might understand that intellectually, but I still had to walk through it. And in each of those moments, I found myself taking a deep breath and calling to mind God’s promises. My trust is in Him, that He will continue to order my steps and lead me where He wants.

The Captivating Lady Charlotte

I need to remember this as my second inspirational Regency releases soon. I know there might be some who don’t ‘get’ parts of it, but that’s okay. I don’t want to let my fears shape me by writing less than what I feel God says is okay, just to make some people happy. I want to be braver, write stronger, knowing God is with me, strengthening me for all that lies ahead. For this to happen I need to continue to face my fears.


Don’t we all?

Carolyn Miller lives in the beautiful Southern Highlands of New South Wales, Australia, with her husband and four children. A longtime lover of romance, especially that of the Regency era, Carolyn holds a BA in English Literature, and loves drawing readers into fictional worlds that show the truth of God’s grace in our lives. She is represented by Tamela Hancock Murray of the Steve Laube Agency. Her Regency novel 'The Elusive Miss Ellison' released in the US in February 2017, and is available at Amazon.com, CBD, Barnes & Noble and Book Depository, and her second novel ‘The Captivating Lady Charlotte’ releases June 27 and  is available for preorder now.


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