Tuesday, June 15, 2010
More on sharing your story
Some of the mistakes Gram had made over the years were nasty ones. (No, not these shirts! I don't think the guys minded too much because they were made with so much love.)
The family doesn’t talk about those mistakes very much. Without knowing more of a person’s upbringing and the hardships encountered along her journey to being the strong, loving person I remember with love and awe, how can we really understand her thinking, her reasons for some of those things she thought and did? The writer in me was able to get her to talk a little one day, and that was when she told me just a couple of her problems and fears as a child growing up on an isolated Australian cattle station (ranch). Her father had a minimum paying job on the station and when her mother became ill after having many children, it was Gram who cared for the family.
She grew up in the sad era of people who vividly remembered attacks by aboriginals on the invaders of their lands. Women on lonely homesteads lived in fear and of course there were dreadful reprisals by the white men after any attacks. Is it any wonder Gram made a disastrous marriage to escape and other mistakes when the country girl became a woman in Sydney? She lived through two world wars and that most certainly also affected her decisions. How I too wish we had encouraged her to talk more about even the most painful times in her life
So, I want to ask some questions.
How honest dare WE be about recording stories of our journey?
We naturally would love our childrens’ children to know about those who went before them, but are there things we are doing and thinking right now we are too ashamed of to dare mention?
I can only pray we will be found faithful to how God wants us to live.
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