Is the grass on the other side truly greener?
In human terms, how often have we noted the exceptional quality of another person’s position and thought, if only I had that! More success, better connections, a bigger house, nicer car, palatable circumstances, improved relationships, (fill in the rest) things would be easier…I will have “arrived.”
At various times in the past, I’ve made assessments on things by how they appear at first glance—before I really got a chance to think about them. Perhaps that was but a human trait or it’s just me. Whatever it is, I’ve now experienced enough of the world to conclude that outside appearances are illusory.
I’ve waited years for the Big Day. You know. The one where the dream you’ve ever imagined finally happens and plops right into your lap from nowhere? Okay, okay, I have experienced a few of those over the years, but not without preemptive hard work and determination to back it up—however, it hardly equated to inner happiness. Perhaps you experience this euphoric period, but it fades as you adjust and grow accustomed to the new set of conditions. And suddenly those new conditions become the old set once again while you start looking for the next enhancement.
“The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence” is an early American proverb of restlessness and disgruntlement. This idea other people are better off is not true. I’ll dare say it’s the devil’s great deception; an intended distraction. Contentment is the direct result of our current heart-status. What I mean is…the better alternative is the one you’re already in. Grass is not greener. Grass is just grass wherever you are. Learn to cultivate your own field. It’s yours, your responsibility. Belonging to you, you’re accountable for either producing a lush, green, healthy lawn with the seed you’ve been given, or one that is riddled with weeds, lacking water, and poorly trimmed. How can we expand our field into something greater if we allow it to rot while we daydream of other pastures?